The Courage to Commit

When I write these blogs, I channel the theme of the month first and then write from my own experience, with the hope of giving you something to take away, whether it's support, encouragement, or strength in the knowledge that you are okay, you will be okay, and there is nothing wrong with you or the place you find yourself in.

We grow so used to the world telling us, or showing us, what a successful, happy life is supposed to look like that it becomes all too easy to be hard on ourselves for not having that. Or for not even wanting it. And even though we know that nothing on social media is truly real, if we keep scrolling, it can get depressing real quick.

When I publish a blog, I rarely go back and read it again. I let it go, because my job is to put it out into the energetic space, not to dwell on it. So when I begin to feel the pull to write the next one, I don’t always realize how connected the theme is to the previous month’s message. But this time, I noticed it.

The theme is building.

Lately, it's been all about supporting ourselves as we gently let go of the past. At first, I wondered if maybe we weren’t listening and needed a stronger nudge, but when I sat down to write, something felt off. So I left it for a few days. And now I can see the shift.

Yes, we do need a stronger nudge. But not because we’ve been avoiding the work. Because we have been doing it!

We’re halfway through 2025 already. It feels like so much time has passed and yet here we are, still wondering if we’ve made any real progress. But I need to tell you that’s not true. Not at all.

Energetic shifts matter. And you can’t align with what you really want until you make those internal shifts first.

This month is about commitment. I told a friend recently that I’m commitment-phobic. I didn’t used to be. I was always the first to jump in - to instantly make plans, buy the car I wasn’t sure I could afford, book the holiday just because, sign up for the course or say yes to an adventure.

Then my commitment was taken advantage of. And I got burned. And no matter how long it’s been, no matter how healed the scars are, (and I have done so much hard healing!) it still feels almost impossible to trust myself and go all-in on anything.

Because when someone breaks you, and through healing you stop blaming them, you can start blaming yourself. I was the one who gave my commitment to the wrong person, right? That’s on me, so how can I trust any of my decisions again, if I got such a big one so wrong?

Even ‘healed’ (and I say that loosely, because this is a lifelong journey) I know everything happens for a reason. I know I wouldn’t be who I am today without going through the things that tore me down. I know there are no wrong decisions. Whatever timeline we follow, we’ll never know what the alternative would have led to so we need to trust that we are on the right one.

Change is coming. I can feel it, not just for me, but for all of us.

This year is a year of evolution. A year to stand up for who we are and what we deserve. And hopefully, in the process, we become better at supporting others too, because who they are and why they are not the same as us (or is it us that are not the same as them?) has nothing to do with us.

It’s time we let everyone live their own experience and support them the way we wish to be supported ourselves.

It’s time to stop worrying about what everyone else is doing and put ourselves first. To take a leap of faith, or maybe just one steady step in the right direction, knowing not everything will come with us, and not everything will work out the way we hope. But maybe, just maybe, it will be better than we can even imagine.

For that to happen, we have to let go.
Let go of the comfort we currently feel.
Let go of worrying how our choices will be judged.
Let go of the guilt that says we are letting people down by being true to ourselves.

Because when we stay stuck for the sake of others, we are letting ourselves down. And that’s not okay.

The person you were charged with looking after when you were born into this life is you. Not your parents. Not your friends. Not your partner. Not your children. You.

(And no, I’m not saying abandon your children. You chose to become a parent and you absolutely have a responsibility to protect and provide for them until they’re independent.)

But that responsibility should never require the sacrifice of everything you are.

There’s a quote by André Gide “Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore.” or was it Christopher Columbus? Either way, the time is coming to lose sight of the shore.

It takes courage to let go of the past; of everything that came and went. But we are in a season of transition where it’s becoming harder and harder to keep holding on. Because holding on is pulling us further away from our authenticity. From our alignment. From ourselves.

As we grow in understanding, as we heal, we raise our vibration and we literally no longer resonate with what once felt normal.

The Map of Consciousness from the book Power vs. Force by David R. Hawkins shows how our emotions and beliefs affect our personal frequency. When we shift our consciousness, we raise our vibration. Or maybe it’s the other way around, when we raise our frequency, our perspective shifts. Honestly, it’s both. But when we’re doing the healing work consciously, it changes how we see life. And from that new perspective, the life we’ve built no longer fits.

To move past our past, we have to process and release blame, shame, and grief. To step into courage, we have to let go of guilt. And that includes the guilt we carry around how our becoming our true selves might impact the people we love.

Maybe the life you chose is one of service, of showing up for others first, and feeling pride in that. And if that brings you joy and meaning, that’s beautiful.

But what if that’s not the life you’re here to live? What if it’s your time now?

And what if the people you're afraid of disappointing are actually more disappointed that you're not choosing you?

This is the season of deep reflection, emotional recalibration and, if necessary, uncomfortable but powerful course corrections.

As always, be gentle with yourself. Go at your own speed. Love yourself as fiercely as you’ve ever loved anyone else.

No decision, no path, no change will ever be wrong not if it comes from love, from truth, and from alignment.

Believe in yourself and the universe will too.