Time to Commit

Have you been trying to do better at something? Trying to practice self love, self care, through a commitment to some kind of new routine in your life? You know you deserve better than just the effort it takes to try, right? It’s time to commit to the life you want and see how that shifts everything.

Believe me, I get it, I am the Queen of trying! I am always starting something new - a new eating plan, meditation and journaling routine, walking every day, new project, getting up earlier, going to bed earlier… and I last a few days or even weeks before I slip into the 80/20 method… you know, the one that says you only have to be 80% committed to be able to call yourself successful… the one that basically gives you permission to cheat your way out of the commitment as soon as it starts to feel hard or uncomfortable… and make no mistake about it - it will always get to the point of feeling uncomfortable!!!

Our minds love comfort, it makes them feel safe, and whatever our normal has always been, that is what our minds will want to hold on to and is why we resist change; and that is why it takes about two months to solidify new habits.

So the question is, can we commit for two months before slipping to 80/20? Can we get to the point that our subconscious recognises our new routine as safe so that it actually supports us in sticking with it?

To do that we MUST stop trying! Trying implies something is hard, probably too hard, probably impossible, but wouldn’t it be nice if we managed to do it

So what do we need to do if trying isn’t it? We need to level up from trying, to thinking, to believing, to knowing - because knowing is the ONLY thought process that is definite.

Thinking we can do something is absolutely a step up from trying, because trying is surrounded by uncertainty, whereas thinking has some level of hope or belief to it.

So what about believing we can do it, surely that brings confidence in the outcome? We believe in lots of things in life, some of them are true, some of them turn out not to be, so there is room for failure built in. We believe in things when we don’t know the answer for sure - we BELIEVE the weather forecast when it says it will rain all day tomorrow, but we don’t know, after all, it’s been wrong before!!

So we need to know the outcome to ensure success, because knowing is locked in. And knowing doesn’t mean we can’t be wrong, but it means we expect to be right. We KNOW the sun will come up tomorrow, it’s in the future which is totally unknown, but we just know that it will rise. That’s the level of certainty we need to have in our endeavors to ensure success. When we know we can achieve whatever outcome we are looking for; we are automatically setting ourselves up for success, we are aligning our thoughts and beliefs with the outcome we want and we are priming ourselves to move towards it, because our actions will be in sync with the outcome.

So it’s time to commit to your goal, whatever it may be, know that you can achieve it, that you will achieve it, that you will stick to it because it’s what you want - why would you sabotage your efforts if this is your plan?

And every time your subconscious mind tries to pull you back to the comfortable and familiar old patterns that you’ve stopped trying and now know that you are going to break free from, you get to decide, to choose the future you know you are bringing to you (because you also know the future you are choosing if you allow yourself to go backwards!), and that will appease your mind and eventually become your new familiar.

That doesn’t mean you have to be perfect. We are not perfect and we may slip, and when that happens it’s ok, be supportive and push forward… just don’t use a slip as an opportunity to change your goal, reduce your expectations and dilute your progress - still know you can do this. You have not failed, your goal is still achievable and as long as you know that you will be able to get straight back on track. Keep the goal in mind, not the tasks, the effort required or the progress. 

I’m in this with you. It’s time to be strong and confident because we have goals and plans and we know we deserve them, we are ready to reach them and we KNOW we will fulfil them. 

XXX